I am a diehard romantic and self-admitted cheeseball, so I spent as much of my youth envisioning my proposal as most young girls spend envisioning their dream wedding. I wasn’t sure exactly how I was going to pull it off, but I knew I wanted it to be over the top: something that involved a fountain in Italy, or a private orchestra I hired, or at least a couple of trained seals.
I met the girl who would be my wife when we were toddlers; we were more like family acquaintances than family friends, so I saw very little of her growing up. I did get a series of Christmas cards every year though, reminding me that she was there all along. ; )
Later in life, while we were both going through a “where do I go from here” sort of phase, we started exploring that old friendship, and that friendship quickly ignited into love. We fell for each other quite fast and we knew within the first month or so that we were destined for each other. I retrieved my heirloom ring from my parents house and stashed it behind some clothes in my closet.
I spent weeks straining my brain, trying to think up the most romantic, over-the-top proposal anyone had ever attempted. But one night, after about two months of dating, we were driving home from dinner and we were talking about an ex of mine who suffered from bi-polar disorder and how I lived with her and took care of her while things in my own life weren’t going too well. All of the sudden, my soon-to-be fiance burst into tears.
“That’s why I love you so much,” she said, “because you are the sort of person who would take care of someone else when you really need someone to take care of you.”
I suddenly realized that all of my dreams of a melodramatic proposal were my way of proving to myself just how loveable I could be… but this person loved me just for who I was. I drove us straight home, walked to my closet without saying a word, and pulled out the ring. We’ve been together for almost a year now, and I couldn’t ask for anything more. It the end, it was my dream proposal just because it had her in it.